Welcome to the Intuitive Princess website!

+386 (41) 687 143

How to deal with negative thoughts and anxiety?

How to deal with negative thoughts and anxiety?

After much deliberation, I decided to talk about anxiety, malaise, negative thoughts that haunt us, and how we can influence all this ourselves. 

A lot of my clients face similar challenges and maybe now it’s really the right time to talk about it as much as possible and help as many people as possible. It is very important that in such situations one is aware that they are not alone and that this is just the current situation.

We all carry emotional scars from our youth due to traumatic or merely difficult experiences. Early in our life, we experienced events that shaped us. The emotions associated with them helped layer by layer to create our personality.

Let’s face it, we’ve all been marked by events imbued with extremely strong emotions.

And whenever we think about these experiences, the body always relives them, even if only with thoughts. But every thought is also associated with a feeling.

When we are young, we always have our hands full, which allows us to temporarily avoid old, strong emotions. We literally sweep them under the rug. We are inspired by new friends, trips to unknown places, hard work and effort to progress, acquiring new skills or engaging in new sports. We rarely suspect that many of these actions are driven by feelings associated with certain events in our past.

By the mid-thirties or forties, when the personality is fully formed, we already experience most of what life has to offer.

Therefore, we can largely expect the outcome of most events or experiences that surround us.

Even before we face most things, we already know how we will feel about it.

We well know the nuances of bad and good relationships. Because we can predict probable emotions before the actual experience happens, we decide whether we want to experience a particular “known” event before it actually happens.

Of course, all this is happening in our subconscious.

Why and when do things get complicated?

Because we can predict the feelings that will accompany most events, we already know if we want to experience an already known situation before it happens.

When we reach middle age, however, nothing can banish the feeling of emptiness.

Why?

You wake up every morning and feel like the same person.

The environment that has filled most of our time so far no longer does its job.

And how could it, as the influence of emotions that has been caused in us by the external environment is fading within us, because we already know that we are the exactly same person who went to bed last night and woke up to a new day today.

This is known by most people as a midlife crisis.

Most people try really hard to hide these feelings and therefore delve into material things, buy a new sports car, some rent a sailboat, go on a long trip, others make new friends, shop, renovate their home, join a new club or even undergo plastic surgery.

All of the above are futile attempts at feeling better or at least feeling differently. The point is that when enthusiasm for new things, places, or relationships subsides, we find ourselves on the same level of emotional identity again.

When we try to escape this emptiness, we run away from emotions because dealing with them is too uncomfortable or even painful.

When we start to lose control, we simply turn on the television, browse the web, call someone or send them a message, start talking, and instantly change our emotions.

What was outside of us put us in a better mood, so we start relying on that and always come back to it when we feel emptiness within us.

But basically what happens with persisting in these disorders is that we become more and more dependent on something outside of us that is changing our inside.

We need increasingly stronger stimuli to achieve the same feeling in order to feel different or better, and doing so can turn into a constant search for pleasure and ways to avoid pain at all costs.

We crave a life of enjoyment, and this desire is driven by a feeling that we can never get rid of, but is always present in our subconscious.

Some people, however, don’t try to hide these feelings and lie to themselves, but begin to wonder who they are, what their mission in life is, for whom they do all this, what happiness is, whether there is anything more in life, what is important at all, what is love, where do I find it… and the soul begins to awaken.

We realise that external stimuli are not important and that nothing in the environment will improve our well-being and that maintaining the ideal for the sake of others is in fact a strategy by which we run away from feelings that never catch up with us.

Now what?

No more compulsive shopping, no more surfing the web, no more endless searching for company and attention.

Suddenly we feel restless, our breathing becomes shallower and shallower, we have a million negative thoughts that create chaos in our mind.

Our heart starts to beat unevenly, maybe our blood pressure is rising, we feel like we are going to explode, we can barely breathe and we have a feeling that we are going to suffocate, there is no air in the room, we are getting hot and we are more and more restless and helpless. 

Yeah, that’s it, that’s the feeling I’ve experienced countless times myself.

Countless times I thought I was going to die, that I was going to suffocate, that I was gasping for air.

I thought maybe my heart was failing or that I was losing my mind 

I often remember these feelings, especially when people ask me how can you always smile, be so positive and in high spirits… you look so strong and determined, nothing ever rattles you.

When I hear this, I just smile and say to myself this is me, the real me without a mask. If you take it off, you will look the same.

But it’s not that simple. We can’t just remove the mask and show our true face. It takes work, a lot of energy, willpower, focus and of course practice, practice, practice.

The first thing I advise you to do is to learn to breathe. Open a browser and Google a little, and you will find countless breathing exercises, ways and techniques that will help you to overcome a crisis or to calm down easily and start thinking rationally.

Millions of people worldwide have problems like yours, and everyone deals with them in their own unique way. What is important is that you start working on yourself and that you start dealing with emotions and situations. Day after day, you persevere and do not go to the established patterns of seeking attention and comfort in the external environment.

One of the simple exercises that has helped me a lot in difficult times and still helps me is the box breathing technique.

We inhale slowly and count to six, then hold the air and count to six, then exhale with all our strength, completely emptying our lungs, visualising how all the emotions we no longer need are leaving our body and how our thoughts and body are cleansed.

Repeat the exercise at least six times and you will feel your breathing is calming down and deepening, your thoughts are becoming clearer, chaos in your mind is disappearing, and your heartbeat and blood pressure are becoming more even.

This is also one of the basic energy exercises I use in energy coaching. The feedback I get is mostly extremely positive. The improvements that clients experience are greater than expected.

By repeating the exercise several times, they feel immediate relief in the body, the muscles slowly relax, which leads to general well-being.

After performing the exercise, you are calm and can slowly think of solutions and let your body find its rhythm. 

Our body is created to fight or flee.

The fact is there is no point in tilting at windmills. Even stronger is the realisation that we don’t have to run away from ourselves, no matter how much outside influence we give in to. Each of us sooner or later faces their shadow self.

3 greatest misconceptions about online marketing

3 Greatest Misconceptions about Online Marketing & how to Increase Sales

Today, when we are living in a world of technology, the vast majority of entrepreneurs are aware of the importance of online marketing. Nevertheless, sometimes our approach to online marketing is not the best for us. Why? 

Often, we give up too fast and make 3 big mistakes, or we think that the web will work for us. Mistakes are inevitable and even useful, because we learn from them. But they are also expensive. They cost us time, money and missed opportunities. That is why it is best to learn from other people’s mistakes, right?

Let’s take a look at three misconceptions of entrepreneurs about the Internet. If you avoid them, the web will work for you and bring you new clients all the time.

WHEN I CREATE OR PUBLISH A WEBSITE, BUYERS WILL COME BY THEMSELVES!

Why do you think if you published a website you already did everything? Let me compare this to a shop that you set up far away from all settlements. Until you build roads to this shop, you have done nothing. Do you know what your roads are in digital marketing? Your roads are Google advertising, search engine optimisation, social media, e-newsletter. 

In the first months after your website is published, it pays to launch a Google advertising campaign, while improving your natural hits ranking with optimisation.

Get email contacts for your e-newsletter as soon as possible. Do not forget about Facebook, YouTube, Instagram and Pinterest. It probably sounds like a lot of work to you, but believe me soon you will get the first results and then decide which channels to invest your time in.

WE HAVE TRIED WITH FACEBOOK, LANDING PAGES OR GOOGLE ADWORDS BUT IT DOES NOT WORK 

You need to be aware that not every channel is suitable for every industry. First, clarify with yourself and ask yourself how your marketing went. Have you set your goals realistically for this channel through which you advertised? Was it done by the service provider, and if you did it yourself, how did you go about it? Many people start campaigning but can’t even write an effective ad. Which only means that their approach was not the best.

Choosing the right service provider or being educated enough about this type of advertising yourself will make it harder for you to despair or abandon the very channel that could bring about the big leap for you.

If you are well-informed or you have chosen the right service provider, you will not give up too quickly and abandon the very channel that could bring you the biggest increase in sales numbers.

I ATTRACT CLIENTS THROUGH RECOMMENDATION, I DO NOT NEED MARKETING!

Regardless of the fact that you attract your clients through recommendation of your friends and acquaintances of your other clients, they without a doubt check you online before they decide for you. They check your website or Facebook profile. If you don’t have at least some online presence in this age of technology for a buyer to easily find you, you will lose a lot of business without even knowing it.

In the United States, as early as 2012, more than 80% of consumers searched for information about products and services on the internet. Before a consumer decides to make a purchase, they visit at least 3 online stores, even 10 in some industries. Because consumers compare you to your competitors, what matters is their first impression of your website.

Do not let your competition beat you just because they will have better digital marketing. Get educated on this subject, as it represents the future of doing business. Don’t let your clients get away from you before they even enter your place of business. If you were living in error, I hope this article opened your eyes. The web is important, no matter which industry you work in. I wish you much success in business and online marketing.

Consumers compare you to the competition, so it’s important what their first impression about you is, based on your website.

Burnout – the disease of today’s society. Is it worth it?!

Burnout – the disease of today’s society. Is it worth it?!

Today’s topic will again be a little different from typical entrepreneurial themes. Today, I am writing about burnout. Burnout is nowadays, of course, associated with the business world as it originates from it. We live in a world of materialism and work; a world where values are different than they were years ago. I would dare to bet that the vast majority of people are dealing with burnout, but do you know what the consequences of this can be and how you can get rid of burnout?

WHAT IS BURNOUT?

First, I would like to touch on the question of what burnout even means.

The definition of BURNOUT states that it is a process of self-exhaustion, when individuals push themselves beyond all boundaries in order to meet their own exaggerated expectations, supported by expectations set by their surroundings. Burnout is the psychophysical breakdown that results from exhaustion through excessive work or emotional engagement. A vast majority of people today are experiencing burning out, but fewer experience the actual burnout.

Nobody is safe from burnout, but it is experienced more frequently by those with specific risk traits, such as workaholism, perfectionism, emotional vulnerability, and sensitivity to criticism. People who always push themselves too hard, who have a hard time saying no, who are trying to make others, usually superiors, happy with them, are more at risk. Work exhaustion is a “normal” condition after intense work, while burnout is a mental disorder that results from an inability to set healthy boundaries to workaholism.

Nobody is safe from burnout, but it is experienced more frequently by those with specific risk traits, such as workaholism, perfectionism, emotional vulnerability, and sensitivity to criticism.

CHRONIC BURNOUT

We often equate feeling chronically tired with burnout, but that is not always the case. Feeling chronically tired can be a symptom of various problems. Burnout differs from work exhaustion in that, in addition to fatigue, there are also many psycho-pathological signs.

The first sign is excessive emotional engagement, such as constant help to others, which in turn leads to chronic exhaustion and anxiety. If workaholism continues, panic attacks, emotional outbursts, signs of depression, withdrawal from people, and anxiety occur. But most typical is the fluctuation of self-image, since overworked people can no longer achieve results, which leads to a feeling of entrapment.

HOW CAN WE HELP OURSELVES?

First and foremost, we must go deep within ourselves, and put ourselves and our bodies first. We need to be aware that we are worthy, that we are most important, and if we do not put ourselves first, certainly, no one else will – not our co-workers, not our superiors, not the people we live with. If we increase our workload, we also need to increase our rest and the amount of activities that offer relief. Recreation is not enough here; we need quality rest and sleep. Set boundaries for yourself, set priorities.

The leading psychotherapist in Slovenia is Dr Andreja Pšeničny, who emphasises in an interview that those who cannot stop themselves are stopped by their bodies. As an example, she cites the work of a woman with a family doing project work and not being able to sufficiently devote herself to her family because of work. She has deadlines at work, doesn’t have a regular schedule and is not getting enough sleep. The thought of work suffocates her, in general, she is feeling powerless and exhausted. Many people nowadays say that they are on the verge of burnout. What does this represent to us? What does this tell us about today’s society? Are the social circumstances today such that they are a favourable environment for the development of burnout, or have these problems existed in the past under a different name? I strongly doubt that; I think that burnout is a reflection of today’s materialistic society.

Love yourself, love your body, take a break, treat yourself with enough sleep, vacation … Love your children, parents, partners, people around you and dedicate time to them too. There will come a time when it will be too late and you won’t be able to do this, so live life as it should be lived, to be happy & fulfilled.

Research shows that in Slovenia, every other person speaks of signs of exhaustion; half of those is exhausted, the other half is burning out. It is encouraging, however, that in recent years there has been an increase in talk about this in Slovenia, and that certain companies are testing their employees, which is also encouraging.

However, as I said before, regardless of our employer, we are the ones who must take care of ourselves. With this article, I really want to encourage everyone to think about themselves first.

0
    0
    Cart Content
    Your cart is emptyReturn to Shop

    NEW! Download our free workbook: 5 Elements of Success

    Download the workbook that will take you on a journey of discovering your own definition of success. Lay the foundations and create your plan to achieve balance between your business and family life and be successful in both areas.

    Enter your information here and receive exercises in your inbox.